Autism Parenting Secrets

You’re the Problem AND the Solution


Today, we’re exploring the concept that was true for us.  When parents judge what their child is doing as wrong they become the problem.  For only seeing the problems, you miss the solutions.   When a parent can shift their perspective, and realize they are part of the problem, they can see clearer solutions for their child.   

When our son was first diagnosed with Autism, we went into hyper-fix-it mode. Every behavior that we witnessed we attributed to his diagnosis. We judged it all. And those judgments robbed us from appreciating so many beautiful moments with our child. We were so focused on the bad that we couldn’t see the good.

Our hyper-focusing was truly amplifying every little thing and when you focus only on what’s wrong you can’t see what’s right- we were absolutely the problem. It’s not that we don’t think you’re doing everything you can to help your child (you wouldn’t be listening to us if that were the case). But maybe that desperate desire to fix is hindering you from accepting where your child is right now.  

When you can let that judgment go, you can truly be a better parent to your child. It allows for a better connection, which will ultimately help you be the best parent, and the best CEO and advocate for them and embark on a path of healing and light.

 Today, we’re discussing how you can do that one step at a time.

 Key Takeaways

  • What we mean when we say you are the problem (03:00)
  • Every child is different (08:30)
  • Are there beliefs that you carry that don’t serve you?  (12:45)
  • Do you have a clear vision of where you want to go? (19:50)
  • Claim the role of CEO (26:50)
  • Getting aligned with your spouse (32:20)
  • Taking things one step at a time (36:30)


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